capntom asked this question on 4/5/2000:
capntom asked this question on 4/5/2000: Sir I need to know why You decided to insult me on this panel for asking question?
snowbird gave this response on 4/5/2000:
If I had insulted you, you would have known it throughly. I am a PTSD service connected Nam vet. I used as much tact as I could to control my anger and frustration with the likes of you and your kind.
As you will see in the followup answer which I let my wife write, I was being nice.
It is an insult to my dignity to share the title of expert with someone like you and others. Myself and others are on this site to try to help others to the best of our ability. However, when I read some of the degrading things that you write in the form of counseling to those in need of help, I feel that what others have told me is true. That is that this site is rigged and everyone here is out for their own personal glory, not to help any one else except their friends.
I have spent my 51 years trying to help others in whatever way I could. I am now totally disabled because of the stress it put on my life.
I was asked to come to this site by someone I highly respect, because of my abilities to deal with most aspects of counseling. If you have taken the time to read some of my answers, maybe you can understand my abilities and learn about counseling. I am not saying that I am something special, just that I know what I am doing. I have been highly trained to do it.
You have your expertise in mechanical things. My espertise is in human relations and health care. I feel that you and others should stay in your fields and I will stay out of yours.
capntom asked this follow-up question on 4/5/2000:
I don't understand why your so mad at my question, it wasn't meant to harm, i'm just trying to understand this problem,I trying to help these people, which is what i do everyday. i'm not trying fight with you, what do you mean by the likes of me, you don't even know me
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blue_eyes_33 gave this response on 4/6/2000:
I am answering this question because I am dismayed at what is going on here. I also am a survivor of domestic violence and I did answer his question because I don`t feel he asked the question out of maliace. I felt if he wanted to understand the reasons why we stay then I should tell him. As most of us are aware of by now there has been some major problems on this site as of late and I hate to see this going on. Have you looked at his profile at all? I have not but I am willing to educate the uneducated anytime I can. I understand Snowbird that you have A LOT of experience in this field and that you feel that if he doesn`t know then he should not be listed as an expert in this are which I agree with 250%. I was married for five years in my first marriage and some of the abuse included but WAS NOT limited to: choking, punsched me in the left kidney which bruised my kidney( I was urinating bright red blood), hit me in the back with a golf club( left a bad bruise for two months, and hit me in the mouth and split my bottom lip wide open. The man I am currently married to has assualted me but the reason I have stayed with him is the fact that he quit drinking the last time he hit me which was almost two years ago. We cannot just leave. They find you and terririze you and your family. thanks to this stuff I have a panic disorder. At one point in time I could not get into a car or go to the store. Its not fun and when you have children its even worse because then they tell you if you leave im taking the children which makes you stay. You could say well you could leave while they are at work. Wwhat if they do not work? What if their best friend is a Sherif and finds you at any domestic violence shelter you go to? I cannot begin to tell you about domestic violence and how to help someone. by the way THERE ARE MALE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. I wrote a 10 page paper on it for school and I got an A but when my professor saw the title he laughed and I said and what do you see as funny/ He said nothing and I filed a complaint and thats how strong I feel about the subject.
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